I feel like I’ve come a long ways since these posts here and here. Remember the time where I talked about how crazy difficult it was to find a balance between blogging and managing my family? God has been merciful and gracious to me and my family over the past 2+ years. Where I was weak and incapable, he carried me and most importantly my family. It feels as though a huge burden was lifted from my shoulders. The sad part is that it wasn’t a burden I was meant to endure, it’s one I chose to carry myself. Maybe you’re carrying the same burden? The “I can be all things to all people” burden. Have you carried the burden that never allows you to utter the words “no” or “help” before? I lived there for quite some time recently.
So what’s changed? I simply stepped back and decided to LIVE in the present and accept the fact that it would mean someone somewhere wasn’t getting the best of me – but my family is, always. I asked for help and we met a wonderful lady here in Bend that has really become a huge source of relief for us, helping a few hours per week with the day to day tasks that we were falling behind on. Most importantly though my perspective changed when I came to realize that I simply couldn’t do it all and that it was ok to say no.
A big part of that freedom came for me when we moved to Oregon, we had almost zero obligations outside of TFF and our children/home. It’s very interesting to take a step back and start from scratch, re-writing your daily schedule. Chooseing carfully what your family will participate in and what you’ll say no to. If you’ve ever been in this same position, moving to a new town or state you’ll understand. It’s been very refreshing for us to say the least!
The fact is though that it doesn’t have to take a out-of-state move for these changes to happen. If you’ve found yourself at your wits’ end I want you to know that it is possible to find peace and to find balance in life. I was taught for many years that balance was elusive and that it was a pendulum of sorts swaying back and forth as your focus shifted from area of life to another. However I don’t necessarily believe that anymore – sure there will be seasons of life when you have to devote more time to one area than another but that doesn’t mean your family has to sacrifice. It’s a choice I had to make – put my husband and my children first and then with what’s left ask the Lord to help me stretch my time, energy, and finances to meet the needs that MUST be met and let the rest just be.
We’re coming up on a new year, will you continue to stretch yourself way too thin as I did for too long? Will you continue to carry the “I can be all things to all people” burden? Just try it, let it go and see how it feels!
Now you must know I am so very thankful for all of you – our readers, because when I’ve let TFF slip a bit and not allow it to be the focus of my attention you all have been faithful to visit our blog and support us. When I take hours off at at time on random days to romp around the forest with my children, you let me know that it’s ok and that you aren’t going anywhere. So for that, I say a big HUGE thank you.